We all read with shock the news of how Twilight star – Kristen Stewart had been cheating on her boyfriend and co-star, Robert Pattinson with Rupert Sanders. Robert had only recently made a statement of how he would love to spend the rest of his life with Kristen. Everybody knows that cheating is wrong especially when you claim to love the other person so I don’t get it. The number of people cheating on their partners (wives/husbands, girlfriends/boyfriends, fiance/fiancee) is astronomical. I read the story below in a newspaper recently.
A cheating husband who checked into a hotel with his mistress got the shock of his life – when his wife emerged from another room. The man allegedly told his wife he would be home late that night as he needed to supervise building work on their new house. But he had no idea his wife had taken advantage of her free evening by booking a room for herself and her secret boyfriend at the same hotel, which is popular with people having affairs. The truth came out only when the pair emerged in various states of undress after a power cut. A witness, identified only as Salma, told Kenya’s Standard newspaper that ‘all hell broke loose’ when the furious pair realised their double deception.
The husband and wife reportedly ‘wrestled each other to the ground’ before being thrown out by hotel stuff. Salma said: ‘I saw the woman scream and grab her husband who slapped her hand out of fury. ‘The lovers, who were still in the rooms, were attracted by the loud confrontation but found man and wife tearing into each other. ‘They both quickly slipped through the door and disappeared into the darkness.’ The angry incident took place at the hotel, in the township of Mlolongo in Kenya. Staff believe the couple were both regular clients of the roadside establishment.
Someone once said Relationships aren’t tests, there’s no need to cheat. So I began asking myself why people cheat and I came up with this list on reasons why it makes no sense to cheat. This list is by no means exhaustive and is very limited.
1. Would you love to be cheated on by someone else?
Sincerely, ask yourself this question. If your answer to this question is NO, then you know you shouldn’t be. However, if your answer is YES, then do me a favour and go straight to number 2… Thank you very much.
OK, back to those who said NO, do unto others what you want others to do unto you. Life is too short to spend your time hurting people.
2. Why are you in a relationship if you need to be free
If you want to go about messing around, why not just get a poster and stick it to your chest saying ‘I’m free, single, and only available to flirt.’ I actually think it will be a good idea to create a village or a small community of people who want to be free, without commitments, or self-dignity. If you can all be in the same geographical space, life will be so much better for those who are really serious about being in relationships.
3. You think you’d never get caught
Everyday for the thief, one day for the owner. After you’ve gone round and round, one day you’d come back home to the one that you know makes the most sense. However that day when you choose to come back, you might be the one that makes the most sense for some of those other people you’ve cheated with. So get ready when they come back and scatter everything for you. Ask everyone who has ever cheated on someone, there’s no secret in this world… as long as it involves another person. One day, one day, the cat will be let out of the bag. Especially in these days of Facebook, Twitter and cameras flying everywhere.
Try this and tell me what you find.. Google the word ‘cheating’…. on the first page, tell me whose name you see. Mind you the news about the cheating scandal only came out to the public yesterday.
4. Karma’s a b***h
You think you’d cheat on someone and get away with it… HAHHAHAH!!! I laugh in tongues. You might not pay for it today, but someday you’d have a daughter or son, abi!!! Wait and see what will happen. It’s not rocket science, Life is all about give and take. Whatever you give, you get back. If you don’t get it, someone related to you (in your generation) will receive it on your behalf.
5. Is it worth the stress
The amount of effort that goes into cheating is just not worth it. It’s too expensive. You spend so much time trying to create plots, excuses, lies, etc. It’s a crazy way for anyone to live. If your time isn’t important to you, then I’m sure your money is. When you are cheating, you’d probably end up spending more cuz at the end of the day you’re trying to impress someone/some people (as the case is with some of our brothers and sisters)…
6. One day you go tire
Nobody enjoys cheating forever, one day you’d have an encounter – and that thing that pumps blood into your veins will speak to you. There comes a time in everybody’s life when you become calm and you start to ask yourself what really matters in life. For some people, its the death of someone, for others – its basically just a really bad cheating experience. But one day, something will touch your heart and you’d regret it. I’ve recently learnt that as long as we’re alive, the best we can do for ourselves and those around us is to LIVE EVERYDAY UNTIL WE DIE so that when we go (cuz we all will someday, no one knows when death will come knocking) WE’D HAVE NO REGRETS
If you’re reading this and are currently cheating on someone you know you love, make a decision today and change for the better. You know the right thing to do, you might push the thought behind but not forever. One day, something will hit you… and it will hit you where it’d hurt the most. DON’T WAIT TILL THEN…