According to English tradition, which dates back to the 13th century, women are ‘allowed’ to propose on February 29th? In a typical Nigerian situation, men are expected to pop the question, not the other way round. This got us thinking and we conducted a mini survey to find out what Nigerian babes think about this topic and here are some of the responses we got.
At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter who proposes. If you put your man under pressure asking him when both of you would settle down, etc. Once he’s run out of excuses, he’d probably buy a ring and propose. So at the end of the day, it’s the woman who pressurises the man to propose. All join. I don’t think it matters anyways.
Well, mine was a little bit different. I got pregnant while we were still dating and so it wasn’t a question of waiting for him to go down on one knee and buy flowers or do whatever else. We just got married as soon as possible before anyone else noticed the already bulging bump. But in an ideal situation, ‘I’m quite old-fashioned and I would have preferred to be asked with all the sereren that comes with it – rings, surprise, flowers, etc.
God forbid bad thing, me, I would never ask a guy to marry me. That’s just desperate. Can you imagine what would happen if he says NO!!! Just thinking about it makes me sick.
Well, funny enough, I asked my husband to marry me. I’ve never been one to conform to tradition or anything. I had been waiting a long time for a man – almost getting ‘expired’ and he came along and I saw everything I wanted in a husband and after a few months, I asked him if he’d marry me. I must say it wasn’t a big deal so there were no rings involved or anything. It was just a question I asked over dinner and here we are 10 years on, still happily married. I think people need to get over stereotypes and things that seem culturally right or wrong.
So over to you, readers, what do you think? Would you ever propose to your man? Does the idea frighten you or do you think it can be just as romantic? Or should it just be a role for guys?